“I just want someone who will stay in my life so I won’t have to worry about another goodbye”. Author Unknown
To be a teen in foster care is especially hard. Some of our teens have literally grown up in the foster care system. Experiencing the normal teen hormones, emotional turbulence and struggles for independence, teens in foster care also have to deal with ever present uncertainty. The uncertainty that comes with moving homes and placements regularly, adapting to changing schools, changing friends, adjusting to new family dynamics or even adjusting to congregate care. It is hard to plant roots and feel secure when your world is continually changing. Couple that with their experiences that led them to foster care (extreme neglect, physical, sexual or emotional abuse) and we can only begin to imagine how hard it would be to be a teen in foster care. But time and again we meet teens, who despite their struggles, their losses, their let downs and heart breaks, never give up hope at someday belonging to a family that will stay. Michael, age 13, said it best when he described his ideal family. The first thing he said was “I just want a family that will stay forever and who never gives up on me”. Powerful words that could be spoken by many of our teens in foster care. Michael was clear about wanting to be adopted and clear about what his dream family looked like. One of Michael’s best qualities is his wry sense of humor. He loves to joke and has mastered the art of sarcasm. Not everyone gets this humor, but he hopes to find a family that will embrace his unique humor and laugh along with him. Michael readily shares his smile with everyone he meets and is affectionate, engaging and charming. He also really wants a family that is physically active. Michael loves to play sports, basketball being his favorite. If you put a basketball in his hands, he will happily entertain himself for hours. He would love a family that could play along with him. He would love to play basketball on a team someday as well. Michael loves to be outdoors. He enjoys being out and about, trying new things, going to new places and meeting new people. He would love a family to experience these things with in life. Could you be the family Michael hopes to have someday? And above all, will you stay?
Photo by Ira Mintz
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